Updated: Jan 13, 2021
I wake up every day intending to change the world.
Sometimes that intention doesn't stretch past my front door, but on other days I find myself breaking new territory, impacting new lives and finding my purpose.
The world wants you to be dulled into submission by the endless streams of nonsense that is available at your fingertips. The distraction that removes you so far from yourself that when you do have an opportunity to dive into a deep conversation, you can't do it because it is foreign and uncomfortable.
To light up your life, you must embrace the idea that you need to change—turn off the T.V. and the mindless Netflix benders that have become so popular. Be willing to sit through the discomfort of your own company and watch the possibilities emerge.
The status quo lives inside dullness and a victimhood mentality. The status quo embodies the notion that 'I do not have the power to change anything.'
There is no truth to that statement. The real truth is that human beings have an innate and biological propensity to create patterns in life.
Patterns generate the feeling of safety; patterns are predictable and delude you into thinking you are okay.
Society wants you to be predictable. Predictable people are easy to control and manipulate. Now I am not speaking about this to promote an anarchist mentality towards living life. It is the exact opposite of that.
The anarchist mentality is an unintentional result of the energy that develops inside when the authentic self cannot express itself. It is the fight in the fight, flight or freeze response.
To be truly impactful in the world, you must realize that you are a biological being that relates with the world through your nervous system. When this idea becomes the root of how you operate, you put yourself in a unique position to choose what you will do next.
Can you hear the power in that statement?
Imagine, in every moment, to be able to choose how you show up.
Imagine knowing that the experience you are having is yours and yours alone and knowing what is in your sphere of influence and what is not.
Recently I was listening to a lecture by Dr. Joe Dispenze. Dr. Joe is an influential figure in the world of personal empowerment and someone I like to listen to regularly. Dr. Joe got asked a question about manifesting the ideal partner for a relationship, and I was blown away by his response.
It related to a societal idea that I have had for some time but never found the words to articulate.
When the question came, Dr. Joe chuckled briefly and gave the following answer.
He said, and I am paraphrasing, "Get a piece of paper and make a list of all the qualities you want in an ideal partner and an ideal relationship. Don't miss anything. Make a list as comprehensive as you can. Now go out and become that person."
Can it be that simple?
These two foundational principles then become the journey.
You are a biological being and relate to the world through your nervous system; and
Become the person you think this world needs.
Sounds simple, right? Simple, but not easy.
The question becomes, why is it not easy?
Admittedly this is a very complicated answer that we would need to travel back centuries to uncover. The answer is in the way our societies formed.
A long time ago, we began to turn away from the mystical world. We began to value information over intuition and dismiss anything unexplainable. The notion that we can 'know' our way out of any situation became the cornerstone of the way we lived.
Can you hear the issue with that? Can you hear the challenge that presents itself inside that way of being in the world?
We get led to believe that if we are experiencing uncertainty in any way, there must be an answer outside of ourselves. Someone can tell me what to do. We search and search and search for the solution of why I am not:
Good enough (parent, partner, person, worker, etc.)
This list can go on and on.
The truth is that you got led to believe those things by others that projected their unworthiness onto you. To make sense of the feelings of hurt, you latched onto those ideas as the truth. This sense-making is not your fault; it gave you a sense of security and helped you survive the deep pain that you were experiencing at the moment.
When I realized this about my own life, I experienced a great sense of relief. The actions and words of others did not define who I was as a person. Letting go of this became a powerful starting point for the two foundational principles I mentioned above.
A journey of this magnitude requires support. It requires a diligent approach to intentional living, and I realize not everyone would be up for that. That is okay. I meet folks every day that are entirely content with the status quo's journey of 'status quo,' but this post is not for them.
This post is for the committed person who desires to lead an authentic and genuine life entirely empowered by the heart. The preceding statement does not ignore the gift that the traditional thinking mind gives. It celebrates the mind as a tool, the way it is biologically designed.