Enough space to hear what I had just called myself. Idiot. And in that pause, another truth arrived. I am not an idiot. I made a mistake.

So we move through our days reacting to what shows up: the pressure of the moment, the needs of someone else, the mood of a room, the story we tell ourselves after something goes well, or doesn’t.

Many people do not struggle with leadership because they do not care. They struggle because leadership asks them to communicate from a place they may not have practiced yet. We often think leadership is about asking us to become more decisive, more confident, or better at getting things done by motivating others. There is some truth in that. Leadership does ask us to create movement. It asks us to help people face reality, work together, and move something forward that matters. But I do not...